Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Are You All-In?

This post is about the importance of taking on-line dating seriously, and asking yourself one vital question: are you all in? You've made the first few steps: you've chosen a dating site that you like, and you've started the registration process, now, this is where things start going wrong. This is the first place where people using online dating services mess-up: they very half-halfheartedly fill out their profile. 

1. You aren't going to make any genuine connections with other dating for disabled members unless you put a lot of effort into your profile! You can read up on how to do that here: http://admind4d.blogspot.co.il/2014/04/how-to-fill-out-your-online-dating.html
You profile is a virtual representation of who you are, and what kind of person you are looking to date, if you don't take it seriously, you aren't going to be taken seriously. Make sure you put the right amount of thought and effort into filling it out.

2. You haven't posted a photo. You shouldn't feel pressured into posting a photo of yourself until you feel ready and comfortable, but you should also know, that profiles without photos get less responses. You could be dragging your feet because you feel embarrassed or insecure about posting a picture, both of these feelings are valid. But using online dating is a little bit like jumping into a cold swimming pool, at some point you have to stop sticking your big toe in, and just take the plunge! If you want to find love on dating 4 disabled, you have to commit to it all the way, and part of that commitment is working up the courage to put yourself out there with a photo.

3. You don't approach other members. Online dating is about being proactive! You can't just sit behind your key-board and wait for someone to contact you, it doesn't always work that way. If you aren't sure how to write a message you can use our guide: http://admind4d.blogspot.co.il/2014/05/how-to-write-message-on-online-dating.html

4. Are you in a place to date someone seriously? Before you even sign up you should ask yourself: what do I want? Maybe you aren't really in a place to date someone; maybe you've just been through a bad break-up, or having issues with your health, maybe you aren't sure online dating is for you. Whatever the reason, if you are uncertain about what you want it shows. People can sense hesitation and it puts them off. You have to be sure that what you want is to meet someone- otherwise you are being unfair to them, and more importantly, unfair to yourself.

There is no middle-ground when it comes to dating services. If you don't put yourself out there, you aren't going to get any responses. Try thinking about it from another perspective: how likely are you to send a message to another dating-site member who has an empty profile and no picture? Would you respond to a message from a profile like that? Give yourself the best chance possible by filling out all of your info!